It is never "JUST" sex

We are "JUST" fooling around...

 Fooling...is a more accurate description  then what a person might think, when describing a casual approach to sex. We are fooling ourselves if we believe that fooling around has no cause, and effect. It is foolish to think, that sex is JUST anything. Believing that sex is JUST sex, is like playing with an atomic bomb, and thinking it is JUST a fourth of July sparkler. A sparkler is pretty, fast, it lights up the night, and everyone wants to play with it. What could be the harm?

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Proverbs 6:27 "Can a man scoop a flame into his lap and

not have his clothes catch on fire?

Play with fire and you will get burned...

There is more to sex then the exchange of pleasurable favors.  During orgasm the release of oxytocin and vasopressin trigger feelings of attachment. This is a powerful mix of hormones meant to bind you together with someone. We live in times where people cry out for no restraint, and rights. Yet, if we search deeper...even the science of sex is the proof that it is something much more than," JUST".  The message of the media says, that it is easy to shake off sexual encounters, and for that matter...people are easy to shake off too. This is a lie. Think of one person you know that has been in a sexual relationship that can forget about that person. Tearing from that person leaves bitterness, and a hole that needs to be healed. When we have sex with someone we are walking around with parts of that person, and they have parts of our heart too.  Hooking up is a deadly way to try to catch the love of your life. You've heard the term," There's lots of fish in the sea". The word hook, paints a picture of a fish being baited, trapped, lured, and unto death...HOOKED. Death of dreams, values, hope,  and yes sometimes even physical death follows promiscuity. Our culture would like to paint a picture of dismissed physical acts that are glorious, and fulfilling. Lust is far from fulfilling, and its pleasures are fleeting. It leaves a hungrier, and angry heart. Sex will always have a cause, and effect. You cannot be unaffected by sexual encounters. There is a reason to rise to the occasion of protecting, and valuing your sexuality. You are so valuable. You are worth fighting for...good sex is worth fighting for...commitment is worth fighting for. 

I Corinthians 6:18 "Run from sexual sin! No other sin so clearly affects the body as this one does. For sexual immorality is a sin against your own body."  

AND... 

1 Corinthians 6:19-20  "Or do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit within you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. So glorify God in your body."

My belief, is that the number one cause of promiscuity is a lack of vision mixed with a sense of no value....My prayer is that you will have vision for your life, and understand your worth today. I pray that no matter where you are, or where your heart has been, that you will know that you can turn to Jesus to define who you are...and not the message of the world.  Never believe sex is anything but powerful, and should be treated as a hot and holy act that is meant for marriage. It is meant to build, and create intimacy between two people. It was never meant to be a commodity that is JUST given away.  

 I pray that if you have been hooked by the lie that sex is a simple favor of pleasure...that you will be the one that got away. 

To Be Or Not To Be

"To be or not to be...that is the question " is a famous line from Hamlet. It is a question, that at some point, most will ask. When I think of the word potential, generally I think of the possibilities that I have before me, or what I COULD be.

To be...or Not to be....What will I be...or what will I not be? Who am I suppose to be? Some people die never feeling they had the answer to those questions. You were born with a calling and purpose on your life. All of your life is yet to be discovered, and explored. If only we could understand, and have a glimpse of who we are or to see just how precious our life is to God. I believe, that our whole life would change.

Jeremiah 1:5 "Before I formed you in the womb I knew you...

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I love thinking about that...Before he formed me....He knew me!!! He knew YOU!! When you were hidden away in your mothers womb in the secret place of God's design...He knew you. He knows exactly who we are and who He has called us to be. When no one else knew you existed; He already knew you. and was excited for your life.  Often I think of what it would be like to live without the knowledge and realization of God purposefully creating me. I know that it would be so empty to believe that...I just happened.  I am on this planet for a purpose...and so are YOU!!!

You were not made to remain small. You were made to uncover all the potential that is in you with Christ in you. No matter who you think you are, or who you are afraid you are becoming. It is not too late to live intentionally. Maybe you are afraid that you have missed out on your potential because of painful experiences. Maybe memories of mistakes haunt you everyday....so you settle for less then what you hope for because you don't believe you deserve any better. The thought of who your not, may be keeping you from being free to explore what God has for you.

It is time today, to take responsibility for your life and to acknowledge any sugar coated lies you may believe. I like to call them sugar coated because the ugly lie is just too bitter alone. We would spit it out if... it was that obvious. If mixed with some truth, it makes it easier to swallow, and hide the awful lie the enemy would want you to accept. What have you swallowed down and digested into your life because it seems some what true? Familiar lies are comfy lies, and they are  the ones that have been with us a long time. They seem to be unshakeable yet somewhat tolerable, and harmless. Are you walking fueled by a lie or lies that hinders your life and potential?

We will go through seasons in this life that may seem impossible. When walking through them you will need to guard your potential with truth. We must deliberately walk with a sense of calling and purpose! God has put His hand on your life, and set you apart. You have been born to reflect the glory of God. You are not just waiting to be...but you ARE already His child filled with purpose, and the potential is great...and it is time...To be.

Today my friend, I encourage you to intentionally walk with the confidence that you are a woman on assignment. Enjoy the adventure of unpacking, and exploring all the gifts that God has put inside of you. Do not stress yourself trying to figure out your whole life...think of it as a huge adventure that was designed just for you!!! As you go, you will find out what you are called too, and you will have joy in the journey. Your life is going somewhere! You are on a grand adventure!

If the question is, whether to be or not to be? I say...Be, the woman God has made you to BE!